Happy Valentine Day

Hi everybody, it's Mama E.

Hope you're having a great day. If you're in the Jacksonville, Florida area, and have access to Comcast Cable TV, I host a local show which is aired every Sunday morning at 10:00 AM. I invite you to tune in.

As we approach Valentine's Day, let's talk today about Love. Often our idea of what love is comes from what Celebrities say or do. Sometimes, we get opinions of the definition of love from our friends and associates, (who probably don't know anymore than you). But I suggest that we look at the original lover, in order to find out what love is. The originator of love is God;the bible actually says that He IS love.

When we see people jumping in and out of relationships, or having intimate associations with multiple people, it is apparent that what we demonstrate is not love. It might be fear of being alone. Maybe, it's mere sexual pleasure, or maybe we boost our egos by having other people infatuated with us. Whatever the reason, it's not love.

Love is sacrificial! I know! This is not what you want to hear, but that's what God did for us, and if we're to expect the real, long-lasting benefits of love, it starts with giving up your wants/needs to meet the wants/needs of another.

Love is also commitment. It means that I'm not taking the easy way out. I'm not going to change my mind because a better offer comes along. Note this: there will always be someone smarter, prettier, richer, in better shape, etc. If you are swayed by these exterior, superficial attributes, you will live your life totally unfulfilled because you will always be looking for someone or something else. That's instability!

Love is a decision. It is not "falling in love". What is that? To fall- sounds like you tripped over something. :-)When you make a decision to do something, it didn't just happen. For instance, if you made a decision to go to work today, you were not surprised that you were seated at your desk.You set the clock when you went to be, you got out of bed, got dressed, got in the car, etc. You did all that was neccesary to get there. That's what happens when a decision has been made.Do you get my point? Decide to love him/her. Then do everything neccesary to live up to the decision.

Lastly, flowers are nice, going out to dinner is great, and diamonds are a girl's best friend LOL..But may I suggest that you do more than give her/him a card or a gift? Get information! What do I mean? Learn what it takes to have a good relationship: invest in books, tapes, seminars, or classes. Many times we fail because we don't have the skills to succeed. God says that "My people perish for lack of knowledge". Resources are all around you.

Promise me that you'll take advantage of them, and I promise you that it will make all the difference.Talk to you next time,Mama EB
February 8, 2008 9:43 AM